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How I Can Improve My Conflict Resolution?




The number one thing I have learned about my communication style is I need to listen first, reflect on what is said, and then share my thoughts and opinions. I have come to the sad realization I am quick to react to positive and negative information. Although it may be perceive well to quickly react positively, it is much less often perceived well when I quickly react negatively. I have been making a conscious effort in conversations to slow down my reaction time. I have been trying hard to listen and be more respectful of the person speaking before I jump in with my thoughts and feelings.

Principle of NVC (nonviolent communication) has been helpful to keep in mind. I must shift my thinking to think needs, my needs and the needs of the people I am communicating with. I may have a need to express my thoughts and opinions on a topic being shared, but I must also take a moment and think about the other persons needs before I jump into the conversation. They may need to finish their thought before being questioned.   By taking a step back and thinking about needs, my responses will be more cooperative, conscious, and compassionate.

The 3R’s are described by Magda Gerber will also be very helpful to keep in mind while communicating with others. If I were presenting information to a group and especially a group I know is not going to receive the information well I would be nervous and would not like it if people did not show me the respect I deserve. So I will make more of an effort in my communications to remember to show respect for the other person or people and treat them as I would want them to treat me if I were the one presenting. I will also continue to work on being more responsive. I know my colleges well and feel very comfortable with them, but I do not always spend time watching for cues from body language, temperaments, and their needs. Being more in tune with the people we are communicating will have a huge impact on the quality of my future communications.

I truly do not want to others to just agree with me or shut down in a conversation because I spoke up. I want to communicate in a more appropriate manner and encourage others to also share their thoughts and opinions on the topic. I believe with this new learning I will be able to be a more effective communicator


Author: cstravato

I am a wife of 14 years and have two boys, one is 10 and an the other is 8. They are busy and keep us hopping. I have been a pre-school teacher for 9 years with a break in the middle to teach kindergarten in FL for three years, and I had the luxury of staying home with my two boys for a few years. I enjoy teaching pre-school age children it gives me great pride to help set a generation up to succeed in their school careers and life. I am currently going back to school to complete my masters degree in early childhood education at Walden University.

4 thoughts on “How I Can Improve My Conflict Resolution?

  1. Christina,
    I tend to talk very quick and listen less but since I have been taking this class I have been really working to do better. The needs of others are important so keeping in mind that when we communicate we have to think of others needs and not just our own. If it’s someone I don’t know I will make sure I listen and be empathetic because I don’t know how they may react. I will definitly try not to talk over them when they are talking.

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  2. Christina,

    I appreciate your honesty sometimes it is hard to recognize our faults and weaknesses, and even harder to express them out loud. I do not believe we as a people will ever be perfect at communicating. There will be mistakes but as long as we can recognize them and worked to do better then we can consider ourselves good communicators.


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  3. Hi Christina,
    I love the NVC principles. It is also a plus to mindful of the thoughts and feelings of the person we are communicating with whether negative or positive situation. If we remember to do this our style of conversing would be so much easier. Its often tough for me to listen, stay calm and react rationally especially if I feel threatened or wronged. That’s where the 3R’s come into effect. I love your ending statement in the second to the last paragraph about staying in tune with the person we are talking to is a great idea. good post!

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  4. Christina,
    It is often hard to recognize some of the smallest flaws that others can see that affects our communication with others. I too need to work on not responding so fast because I cut people off and they can forget their ideas that were very important to express. It’s just that I’m so excited to respond and help a person that I do not always give them the time to express their ideas and feelings.

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