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Reflecting on my Communication Skills


Completing communication inventories on my anxiety, aggressiveness, and listening style gave me data to reflect on. So the good news is there was not a great deal of range in how I scored my self and how my husband and colleague scored me. So that means we are all in agreement I don’t like to speak in public but small groups or one on one interactions I enjoy with little anxiety. I am an action to content orientated listener and can be moderately aggressive in my communication style.

I was surprised that others saw me pretty much the same as I see my self in my ability to communicate. This was a good surprise, when I sent out these inventories I was a little worried I would be way off in my self-evaluation. Since my self-evaluation was very close to others evaluations of me it will be easy to focus my goals to improve my communication skills. I have been aware of areas I need to work on and this exercise made it even clearer.

I will try to keep this information in mind when I communication with family, friends, colleagues, administration, children, and children’s families.   It was interesting that people who see me in different situations scored me in the same ranges. I will use this feedback to create personal goals to support better communication in my personal and professional life.


Author: cstravato

I am a wife of 14 years and have two boys, one is 10 and an the other is 8. They are busy and keep us hopping. I have been a pre-school teacher for 9 years with a break in the middle to teach kindergarten in FL for three years, and I had the luxury of staying home with my two boys for a few years. I enjoy teaching pre-school age children it gives me great pride to help set a generation up to succeed in their school careers and life. I am currently going back to school to complete my masters degree in early childhood education at Walden University.

7 thoughts on “Reflecting on my Communication Skills

  1. When I gave my husband the computer to sore my anxiety,aggressiveness, and listening skills I too was worried. I walked away because I didn’t want to see the answers he selected. Surprisingly, his answers were similar to mine as well. I believe this is good because we know are strong and weak points. We can improve our weak points and harness our strong points for the better. I was also glad to know I was not aggressive towards my husband even in our little moments of disagreements.


  2. Hi Christina,
    I still haven’t had my husband to do the assessment yet. I am excited and nervous to hear his thoughts. I might be surprised with the results, I just hope its a good surprise. I am also action oriented and somewhat aggressive in communication as well. I love to take the lead in a group conversation and independently as well. I also enjoy listening too. This assessments allowed us to step back and see how we do things and if and what we need to change or enhance to be more effective in our communication. It must be awesome to know you are consistent when communicating. Great post!!


  3. I also had my husband do the assessment for me and he scored me a few points higher in communication than I scored myself. The funny thing is my friend scored me lower. Wonder what that means??? I love have you shared you were planning to use your results to create your own personal goals. That is a great idea.


  4. I love how many of us selected our husbands and some of us were nervous about the results. I was harder on myself than he was on me. It was an interesting conversation that we had. He expressed to me how proud he was of me and he admitted to not being as supportive or helpful at times. I was shocked! I have not gone unnoticed at home or at work. Thanks for sharing!


  5. Christina,
    I like that the people who you chose to evaluate you evaluated you almost the same as you evaluated yourself. To me that shows that they really know you and pay attention to you. It also tells me that you are aware of your communication styles very well, that you know what you need to work on and also what you do well. My husband knew me well and so did my friend I view myself a little different because I have a hard time accepting some things people say I need to change.


  6. Christina,
    I think that everyone’s evaluation of you being similar shows your consistency in your style which can be a positive thing. It was also helpful for me to show me my areas of improvement (which I kinda already knew lol). We talk about how we communicate differently with different people but this exercise showed me that I really do not communicate that differently with others.
    Taylor Solomon


  7. Christina,

    It is great to hear that yours pretty much matched those who have assessed you. My assessments pretty up matched as well in terms of category. However, my scores were higher and I didn’t know what to think of that. But maybe I am over thinking it since the scores did fall under the same category. I am a single woman right now but it would have been interesting to have a man assess me.



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