Completing communication inventories on my anxiety, aggressiveness, and listening style gave me data to reflect on. So the good news is there was not a great deal of range in how I scored my self and how my husband and colleague scored me. So that means we are all in agreement I don’t like to speak in public but small groups or one on one interactions I enjoy with little anxiety. I am an action to content orientated listener and can be moderately aggressive in my communication style.
I was surprised that others saw me pretty much the same as I see my self in my ability to communicate. This was a good surprise, when I sent out these inventories I was a little worried I would be way off in my self-evaluation. Since my self-evaluation was very close to others evaluations of me it will be easy to focus my goals to improve my communication skills. I have been aware of areas I need to work on and this exercise made it even clearer.
I will try to keep this information in mind when I communication with family, friends, colleagues, administration, children, and children’s families. It was interesting that people who see me in different situations scored me in the same ranges. I will use this feedback to create personal goals to support better communication in my personal and professional life.