This was an interesting question to think about. I will start with my communication style with my family. My family falls in what Louise Derman-Sparks described as part of the dominant culture. In that sense, we are very similar and I do not need to change my communication style to affectively communicate. However of my three siblings and myself we did not all accept the same stance on religious beliefs. I do find when I speak with my oldest brother and my youngest sister who do not believe in any religion or God I use a different style of communication. I try to be more aware of their non-verbal communications and I am more caution about saying too much. I am proud and confident in the religious choices I have made for myself, but I do not feel I need to make any one agree with me nor do I want to make them feel uncomfortable. I also change my communication style when I speak with my other brother who believes in God but has no religious affiliations at this time. I find it is more affective take a passive and empathic listening role in communicating with him because he is quick to argue and question. We have learned over the years that religion is not the best topic for us since we do not agree on many aspects and we do not communicate effectively. I could try harder to think about why he thinks so differently and be more understanding to improve our affective communication.
When it comes to communicating with my colleges at work, I find that there is not a wide range of ethic or cultural variation. However there are cultural differences in our confidence levels that affect how I communicate. I find when I am communicating with someone with a strong confidence level I can freely communicate my thoughts and opinions in a respectful manner and they can do the same with me. We may not always agree but we can openly share our thoughts and ideas and respect each other. When I speak with other colleges with of a less confident culture, I am more cautious in how much I share my opinions and thoughts. I find it more difficult to communicate with people who are not confident to be outspoken and share ideas even if others do not agree. I find I have to spend more time trying to read their body language and facial gestures to interpret their responses. I also find I need to check in more often to see if they are comfortable with how the conversation is going and if they have been offended by anything I have said or done.
I find that regardless of the group or cultural background of the people I communicate with there are some basic rules I follow. I try to treat others with kindness and respect and follow the Platinum rule. I try to be aware of non-verbal communication and verbal communication and adjust my communication style as needed. I try to be honest and clear in my opinions and intentions. I do not like to be disrespected or offended by others and I certainly do not want to disrespect or offend other.