Dr. Derald Wing Sue stated, “Microaggressions are when verbal behavior cause feelings of uncertainty, inferiority, or marginalization, even though no offense was consciously intended (Laureate, 2011).” Through this recent exercise to observe our own lives for microaggression I have stumbled onto a fact about myself I am not proud of. To me it is one thing to realize others have used microaggressions toward me and reflect on how I felt, it is a whole different feeling when I realized I not only have used microaggression toward others but that I am teaching my children to do the same unintentionally. I believe I am a kind and accepting person however, I do have my opinions about many things and the way people do things.
On a car ride home from a family visit as I discuss with my husband things that I didn’t agree with about other family members, not to bash them just in a discussion. However, I realize now by having this discussion with my children in the car no matter how much I think they are not listening, I am model microaggression. If they take my words and attitude and say something to their cousin they will be the microaggressors with out even knowing what they are doing. WOW! This is important for all us parents, it is so hard to be aware of all the messages we are sending intended and unintended.
Laureate Education (Producer). (2011). Microaggressions in everyday life